My Utile Center

“For who has despised the day of small things” (Zechariah 4:10a NKJV).

Dr. Richard Carlson wrote a book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and it’s all small stuff. Since I sometimes let molehills materialize into mountains, thereby wasting a lot of emotional and mental energy, I decided to read and mark it. One paragraph has been particularly helpful:

Whenever we hold on to our anger, we turn “small stuff” into really “big stuff” in our minds. We start to believe that our positions are more important than our happiness. They are not. If you want to be a more peaceful person you must understand that being right is almost never more important than allowing yourself to be happy. The way to be happy is to let go, and reach out. Let other people be right. This doesn’t mean that you’re wrong. Everything will be fine. You’ll experience the peace of letting go, as well as the joy of letting others be right. You’ll also notice that, as you reach out and let others be “right,” they will become less defensive and more loving toward you. They might even reach back. But, if for some reason they don’t, that’s okay too. You’ll have the inner satisfaction of knowing that you have done your part to create a more loving world, and certainly you’ll be more peaceful yourself.

It is amazing what we do for our mental and emotional health when we decide, yes, it’s all right for the other person to be right. Of course I realize that this is quite a sacrifice when it is our spouse or child! But let’s face it, a lot of it is “small things,” small stuff, small petties of life. Years ago I started asking myself, “Is this going to matter ten years down the road? Who is even going to remember it?” This has been a great yardstick. The small stuff that really matters is our small jobs each day and how well we perform them and our small generosities that mean so much to God. The little cup of cold water given in His name means a lot more than a big title. Every time I read the Gospels I am again reminded that Jesus simply went about doing good doing little things that meant so much to those He helped. What better Example could we have?

How you can get balance in life.

Have you ever felt that everything in your life is going crazy and that there is no rhyme or reason for what is happening. Have you felt out of control?

Here is one way to get and feel a balance in your life.

A mental exercise in spiritual balance.

Whenever you feel that things are not perfect, stop what you are doing and quiet yourself. “Stop the world”, so to speak. Breathe in, hold it and exhale. Do this breathing for a few minutes. With every breath in, experience the “life breath” and with the exhale, experience getting rid of toxins and waste. Use this breathing exercise to be in the “NOW”.

This is NOW, and do not think about anything else.

Look around you. Start near and expand out later. Look at the cracks in the street, the grass growing to the street, or the way the sun is shining on objects like the street and the grass. You may also look at how a tree or a bush is growing around the objects or why did an animal build the habitat in a particular location, near the street and the grass. But, look at these things in the “NOW” only. Experience this as “NOW”.

It is in the “NOW” that we become centered and get balanced. When we stop the chatter in our mind and focus on what is, that is when we can truly start to see that this universe is in complete harmony with life as we are experiencing it, right NOW.. In fact all things are in balance with this spiritual harmony. We are living in a quantum fishbowl, so to speak, one that is in perfect balance.

To follow-up with an understanding of the “NOW” read Eckhart Tolle’s book, “The Power of NOW” and Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book, “There’s A Spiritual Solution To Every Problem.” These two books will get your thinking process started into a centering and balance mode in your everyday life.

When you do this exercise know in your heart that our creator made everything in perfect harmony to what is. The creator is the author and perfection of FAITH.

FAITH is Finding Answers In The Heart.

Frank Gasiorowski, Ph.D. Philosophy/Humanities is an Author, Speaker, Radio and TV Guest for http://www.90DayGoals.com and Voice-Over narrator on the new BIBLEMIX CD. Frank is one of the founders of the “Total Self Mastery University” http://www.TotalSelfMastery.com with Dr. Mike Davison. Frank is the Director of F.A.I.T.H. Ministry. http://www.FindAnswersInTheHEART.com